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How “NO” Can Strengthen Your Marriage for Foster Parents

10/31/2019

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My friend, your marriage and your relationship to your spouse or partner is so very important.  It’s even important to me!  You need to take steps to not only maintain your marriage and relationship, but also strengthen it.  Of course, this is important when you are both caring for children in foster care in your family, and when you are not. In other words, you need to focus and work on your marriage at all times.

How “NO” Can Strengthen Your Marriage
Time and time again, I hear from foster parents who tell me that they have a very hard time saying “no” when the phone call comes for a placement in their home.  They just find it hard to say “no, “ perhaps out of guilt, perhaps from the fact that they are afraid that if they say “no,” another phone call might not come.  I can relate.  My wife and I had a hard time with this for several years, as well.  It seemed that we said “yes” to every call that came our ways, despite the fact that sometimes we were just too tired and worn out to do.
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By now, I hope you recognize that there are times in your foster parenting life when it is okay to say No.  It is okay to take a break, and instead focus upon yourself, your children, and your marriage.  There are times when we are just too busy, that can’t even begin to think about tomorrow when there is so much to do today.  At this point, we no longer become helpful to the child who needs our help.   My friend, it is important for you to recognize those times when you can’t take anything else on, because you have enough to handle and take care of at the moment.  If you don’t recognize those moments and times when “no” is the right thing, at that particular stage in your life, then you will bring additional stress upon yourself, your family, and your marriage.  Learn the art of when you need to say “no,” so you don’t overburden, over stress, and overextend both yourself and your marriage.

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 It is important to have your own support group while. This applies not only for your personal life, but also as a foster parents, as we have seen.   A support group of fellow foster parents will also help to strengthen your marriage, as well.  As you find strength and wisdom from your foster parent support group, whether in a local foster parent association, through an online social media group, or through both, you will find that some of your stress and anxieties that come from being a foster parent to a child in need will ease.  This will, no doubt, help your marriage, as well.
 
The Power Of Respite
As I write this, a few months back, my wife and I took our first real vacation together, with no children, in over 20 years.  Let me share that again with you.  We took our first real vacation, as a couple, just her and I, child free, in over 20 years.  While it was only for a week, it was an incredible rewarding and enjoyable time, as we were able to reconnect with friends of ours from Europe. Don’t you know that when you are in an international marriage like mine, you end up having friends from every part of the world?  Yes, a part of me didn’t want to come back home, as it was so refreshing, and a much needed break for the two of us.  We were able to do so in part to respite care.  
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There are those times, of course, when foster families simply become exhausted, or “burned out,” if you will.  Perhaps the foster child has been in the home for an extended period of time, and the family has grown mentally, emotionally, and physically weary from care.  To be sure, this is a very real possibility, and is one that should not be ignored.  In order for the family to remain not only healthy foster parents, but a healthy family unit, they may merely need a break from care, an opportunity to “recharge their batteries,” and a chance to focus on their own family unit, lest it begin to suffer from exhaustion and lack of attention.  Respite may be the solution, as the child is placed into another foster home while the original foster family regains some of their strength, If your marriage is under duress, and you feel like you can’t continue much further, you might wish to consider this option.

​                          (Excerpt from The Foster Care Survival Guide: The Essential Guide for Today's Foster Parents)

                               -Dr. John

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    Dr. John DeGarmo is the founder and director of The Foster Care Institute, and is recognized as a leading expert in foster care. Dr. John is an TEDX Talk speaker, international trainer and speaker, consultant, author, and most importantly, a father.  He has been a foster parent  with over 60 children who have come to live in his home from adoption and foster care. He is the author of many books, including the  book  
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