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My Top 10 Foster Care Wishes for 2016

12/31/2015

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A new year
A time to reflect.
A time to look ahead.
The past year has seen me travel across the United States, visiting several states, and speaking to thousands of foster parents, case workers, educators, and at many churches.  I am often asked what I would like to see happen differently in the foster care system.  With that in mind, I thought I might share my top 10 changes I would like to see happen in the foster care world in the new year.  Now, please keep in mind, these are brief, and are in no particular order.

1)School
    Our schools are often a place of failure for children in foster care. Children in care are often placed in the wrong classes, never getting the resources they need to succeed.  55% of children in foster care will drop out of school at some point.  Teachers, caseworkers, and foster parents need to come together to help.

2)Adoption
When a child is placed into foster care, the initial goal is to have the child reunified with his birth parents, or a member of his biological family. To be sure, the initial intent of placing a child into care is that the placement be a temporary, with reunification the main objective.  Yet, there are those instances when reunification is not possible, and the child is placed through the court system for adoption. Sadly, each year there are thousands upon thousands of children who are never adopted.  May this be the year that more children find that family, find the forever family they deserve.

3) Vacation
There have been those times when I have wished to take a foster child on vacation with my family, but were prevented, for a number of reasons.  To be sure, there are times when it truly is not possible.  Yet, those times when the children have accompanied us, healing often happens within the child due to family closeness, fun, and new experiences.

4) Therapy
Paperwork. It often interrupts services many walks of life.  It is no different in the foster care world.  I am still waiting on therapeutical services for children who have been in my home for 6 months, now.  There needs to be less paperwork, less "red tape" and more action on behalf of the child.

5) Working with caseworkers
One thing I often tell the thousands of foster parents I speak to across the nation is that today’s case workers are under-resourced, underpaid, overworked, and overwhelmed.  They simply have too much paperwork, caseloads, responsibilities, and paperwork accountable to them, with less and less time and resources given to make it all work.  Our caseworkers need to be given more time, more money, more resources, and more understanding from the public, from the courts, and from foster parents.

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6) Working with birth parents
   For birth parents and family members of the children in foster care placed in your home, though, you might be the best example of what a good parent is.  For many children in foster care, they come from a long cycle of family members placed in foster care.  Think of it as a generational cycle.      With this in mind, it is important to remember that we are being watched.  To be sure, we might be the first example of how to take care of a child, and how to be a healthy and loving parent.  Everything we do as a foster parent will send signals to the biological parents on how a parent should act, as well as how to treat their own children.  Everything we say will speak volumes to the child’s birth family members.  This is indeed a big responsibility, and should not be taken lightly.  Therefore, as a foster parent, it is important that we embrace this role, as it will surely affect the child in your own home if and when they go back to the birth family members in the future.  We are planting seeds in the biological parents’ lives; seeds which will hopefully blossom into something better.   We are to help them heal, as well.

7) Leaving my home
    If you read my  books Fostering Love, or the sequel Love and Mayhem, you know then that the hardest part for my wife and me is when the children leave our home.   Our hearts break, because it is like a member of our family is leaving.  Indeed, that is the truth.  A child we have given all of our unconditional love has left our home, and the grief can be overwhelming at times.  More training, understanding, and time to heal from the grief and loss is needed for foster parents.

8) Child sex trafficking
   The world is now starting to wake up to the fact that there is a tremendous and horrific epidemic of child sex trafficking, across the globe.  Indeed, it is a business that is growing substantially, mainly due to the world of online technology.  What society does not recognize, though, is that many of these children come from the foster care world.  This is one area that I am devoting this next year to in both my writing and speaking.  Far too many of our children are at risk, and society does not seem to truly recognize or appreciate the danger.

9) Prayer
   For me, prayer is a powerful tool.  I simply could not be a foster parent without the use of prayer.  In truth, it is what gets me through many a day, and many a challenge.  Yet, personally, I often get too busy with everyday “demands” that I do not devote enough time to my own prayer life for my foster children.  This needs to change, for their sake.  This year, I will take more time to pray for the children, their safety, their birth family, and their future.

10) Awareness
   Like me, I imagine many of your friends and family do not really understand what it is that you do as a foster parent, nor the significant challenges that the children in your home face.  To be sure, society as a whole does not understand the foster care world.  Week after week, I am interview by others on various radio shows, and the hosts always informs me that they didn’t really understand what it was like being a foster parent.  As foster parents, we need to reshape this conversation, showing and educating all around us what foster parenting is truly like, what the challenges the children face, and how others can help through a number of methods.
  
​ Without a doubt, this is a very abbreviated list of the changes that need to be made in the foster care world.  These are just my own personal top ten.  Now, I would love to see yours.  What are your top concerns?  What are the problems that you believe need to be changed?  How can we best help the children in care?  How can YOU be a better advocate this coming year for our children in need?

-Dr. John DeGarmo

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    Dr. John DeGarmo is the founder and director of The Foster Care Institute, and is recognized as a leading expert in foster care. Dr. John is an TEDX Talk speaker, international trainer and speaker, consultant, author, and most importantly, a father.  He has been a foster parent  with over 60 children who have come to live in his home from adoption and foster care. He is the author of many books, including the  book  
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